Jacklynn's new favorite word....
MINE
It comes out as "my", but close enough. She whines out the word while bouncing up and down and holding her arm out or pointing to whatever she wants. Thankfully, she substitutes it occasionally with a sign for "more", or by saying more, which is a lot more pleasant than "mine!" by a longshot. We respond to "mine" with a "no, that is not yours", unless what she is saying is hers, actually is hers. If she is being protective of her stuff, then we respond with "you need to share, Jacky." So far, it's not working. But, we'll give it time. She's worked up quite the temper, throwing fits many times per day.
Can anyone help us??
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Hey howdy hey!
I'll try and give some advice based on personal experience and what I learned in Child Development class.
Kyle didn't really start getting picky about things until Taryn came along to grab stuff, so it's interesting that she does this without any other little siblings (I know she has bigger siblings, but they're old enough to know how to share).
If the things she is asking for aren't good things for her to play with, then good for you not letting down and giving those things to her just to keep her from fussing. A little frusteration is good for little kids so they know there are boundries.
But if she wants to look at a book or a movie case (without the DVD) or something not dangerous, then let her have it. Chances are she's curious and wants to learn more about this world she's in. Give her the chance to explore, but safely and with supervision of course.
Going back to if it's something she shouldn't be playing with, try to redirect her attention to another toy or activity, preferably something new or something she's hasn't played with in a while to attract her attention even more. Redirection is key in avoiding total meltdowns and too much frusteration, though if this doesn't work then she is just cranky and needs to let it out of her system.
This isn't to say that you should encourage the whole "mine" thing, but while she's under the age of two her expressive language isn't very good still, and so doesn't know how to politely ask for things. This is why babies cry; it's not to annoy you or to be a brat, it's because they don't know any other way to tell you what's up. So once her language skills begin to develop more, maybe when she gets to be around the age of two or earlier if that works for her, start teaching her to say "Please" and "Thank you." She'll already know there's boundries and limitations, she'll just then learn how to express her wants in a more positive way!
Hope this works! And I'm not a doctor or psychiatrist or anything, so I don't know if this is all the best ways, it's just what I've noticed works and what I've learned. :)
Hey Jamie! Thanks SO much, I will have Brittany read this on Sunday. I am sure it will help!
See you tomorrow!
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